The Song That Birthed a Story: The Real Inspiration Behind Talk About Him

Some stories come to you like a whisper. Others, like a wound. See, Grace In The Rearview, here.

Talk About Him was born from a quiet, aching place in my life, when I felt like I was bleeding silently and no one could hear me. During that time, I found myself returning to Fantasia’s version of “Lose to Win”, not for the lyrics alone, but for the gritty, raw soul she pours into every note. I’d seen the music video thousands of times, but this time was different.

I was in a marriage that was unraveling. I had no one I could talk to without dragging them into the chaos I was barely surviving. So I turned to a song I trusted to let me cry the way I needed to cry. And it worked. As the tears blurred my vision, something unexpected happened, I noticed the story unfolding in the video.

There’s this moment: Fantasia’s character is shrinking inside herself while the man screams in her face. She looks so small, so unseen. I found myself wondering, Who would notice this moment for what it really was? Who would step in, not to save her like a hero, but to truly see her?

I thought, Maybe a pastor would.

And then I thought, But what is a pastor doing in a place like that?

I laughed at the impossibility. There’s no easy explanation. He’s not there to volunteer or preach. He’s there as a customer, and that realization stuck. What if a moment like this is his wake-up call too?

That seed became Talk About Him, a story about a pastor with a secret sexual addiction and the escort who changes his life. But more than that, it’s a story about what happens when God walks into unsanitized spaces and doesn’t flinch. It’s about the holy work of love and redemption in places most people are too afraid to look.

And while I was writing it, I kept seeing real headlines, pastors going viral for all the wrong reasons, the church wrestling (and sometimes failing) to reckon with human weakness. I told myself, This book needs to save them too. Not with judgment, but with honesty.

So, if you pick up Talk About Him, know this: it’s a gritty betrayal and a holy offering. It’s fiction, yes—but it was forged in my real tears. My hope is that it reaches anyone who’s ever wondered if God still moves in the places we try to hide.

Because He does.

And sometimes, it starts with one broken person seeing another, and talking about Him.

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